Be Definite.

The Point of This Site

“For what purpose humanity is there should not even concern us: why you are here, that you should ask yourself: and if you have no ready answer, then set for yourself goals, high and noble goals, and perish in pursuit of them!” (Friedrich Nietzsche)

So a friend and I were discussing a peculiar yet predictable human behaviour: specifically, how those who become psychologists or psychiatrists are the most screwed up people we know (lovingly), and that those who give advice should really take their own advice, most of the time. I thought about this. I realized that I have spent [as opposed to investing] years of my life studying the habits of successful people + definitions of success + regurgitating their lives and this self-development know-how, without actually doing most of it — without LIVING MY OWN LIFE in my own way. I had all the tools (me) and resources (downloaded books from torrent sites) at hand and ready for action, and yet… the tool was often missing in action.

No more! Ideally — no more! Softly echoing in the background: “The next year will pass whether you make a decision to change yourself or not.” (Fred Anderson)

I had spent my time reading about the rules of the game from the sidelines; now I play the game and apply what I have learned, while becoming the best player I can be. A case study in well-being science: “someone doing well-being science is trying to help people progress from ‘average health’ to ‘well above average health.’” (Dr. Nick Baylis)

This site is my stage upon which I record my journey of being myself (my joyful, self-actualizing self; sometimes redundant but always genuine), beginning with one step. I like to mix metaphors, so please understand and stay tuned to the frequency of your authentic self, peoples! Okay, in all seriousness… I hope you enjoy your visit and find something of value here.

On Goaling For it:

“The major reason for setting a goal is for what it makes of you to accomplish it. What it makes of you will always be the far greater value than what you get.”
Jim Rohn

“We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret or disappointment.”
Jim Rohn

“Whatever good things we build end up building us.”
Jim Rohn

“Feeling right is very important to happiness, and if your life doesn’t reflect your dreams and values, it’s hard to be happy.”

The Reward:

…the person you become by living this way, woohoo. Qualities actively developed: strength of mind,
quality time and activities to enjoy with people you love.

“Most people never feel secure because they are always worried that they will lose their job, lose the money they already have, lose their spouse, lose their health, and so on. The only true security in life comes from knowing that every single day you are improving yourself in some way, that you are increasing the caliber of who you are and that you are valuable to your company, your friends, and your family.” – Anthony Robbins

Things I Want to Do Within the Next 5 Years:

Go on a roadtrip and video/photograph/journal the stories
Interview old folks and visit with them (starting with my own Grandparents)
Grow my own garden for fun and food and to give food to friends, teach the youngsters about ecology
Visit these places:
New England! See where Thoreau lived, Emerson thought, yada yada. See the Flower Bridge.

Daily:

Hour 1: Bike ride
Practicing communicating clearly by first knowing my objective
Listening better! Seeking first to understand. Letting the other fully express what is in them.
Reading for 15 minutes before bed; something uplifting and clarifying
Journaling things I appreciate
I suppose a shower.

Overview of Disciplines (from “disciple” = following a path with heart):

Do a little each day: incremental progress; consistency is key
Put in the time: 1000 hours to be intermediately competent, 10,000 to be expert [find reference to support this]
Visualize the End Result: 17 seconds of focused, pure thought is equivalent to 2000 physical hours (that’s a year of 8-hour days).

“You do not have to justify anything, ever; you only have to enjoy it.” (Abraham-Hicks)