“Happiness is expressing your preferences”
Why have these ideas persisted in my mind lately? [Usually I just read what other people think and then espouse their findings as canon; so, this time I’ve decided to exercise my creativity through the synthesis of what I know about the world from myself and others… did this for about 2 seconds until I found a cool passage in Candace Pert’s book, which I had to post. 🙂 The power of nice compels me.]
Energy flows through you. Therefore you are always expressing that energy as what you are–how you are configured in each moment is how you are–and sometimes you do not LIKE how you are configured. But the configuration that gives rise to feelings of uncomfortable-whatever is something you can change, so yay for that. Sometimes you do not like to feel angry, or discouraged, or whatever feeling it is that feels uncomfortable when you allow yourself to feel it. So what do you do? You don’t allow yourself to feel it. You resist it. Block it. Create a block, a mental block, which corresponds to the physical blockage, which is the potential dis-ease manifested in your body.
The point is: not to avoid feeling negative feelings, but to express what you are feeling. Expression is healthy flow. The flow of energy is what is important.
And thus, you know you are being YOU when what you are expressing also feels good to you. When you are not being YOU, your negative expression is a symptom of a misconfiguration. It’s just a helpful indicator. Now that you know which effects your cause (configuration / blueprint / goal / reason / current though) gives rise to, you can adjust yourself so that your expression is aligned with what you think of as YOU. You do the things you enjoy, you think the thoughts that excite you, you expect good things to happen. Healthy state.
And now for some Candace Pert from her book The Molecules of Emotion:
Chapter 13, Truth:
“The tendency to ignore our emotions is ‘oldthink’, a remnant of the still-reigning paradigm that keeps us focused on the material level of health, the physicality of it. But the emotions are a key element in self-care because they allow us to enter into the bodymind’s conversation. By getting in touch with our emotions, both by listening to them and by directing them through the psychosomatic network, we gain access to the healing wisdom that is everyone’s natural biological right.”
“And how do we do this? First by acknowledging and claiming all our feelings, not just the so-called positive ones. Anger, grief, fear–these emotional experiences are not negative in themselves; in fact, they are vital for our survival. We need anger to define boundaries, grief to deal with our losses, and fear to protect ourselves from danger. It’s only when these feelings are denied, so that they cannot be easily and rapidly processed through the system and released, that the situation becomes toxic…And the more we deny them, the greater the ultimate toxicity, which often takes the form of an explosive release of pent-up emotion. That’s when emotion can be damaging to both oneself and others, because its expression becomes overwhelming, sometimes violent.”
“So my advice is to express all of your feelings, regardless of whether you think they are acceptable, and then let them go…When your emotions are moving and your chemicals flowing, you will experience feelings of freedom, hopefulness, joy, because you are in a healthy, ‘whole’ state.”
“The goal is to keep information flowing, feedback systems working, and natural balance maintained, all of which we can help to achieve by a conscious decision to enter into the bodymind’s conversation.”
Eight ways to use awareness and intention to tap into the psychosomatic network, in order to prevent disease and maximize health:
- Becoming conscious.
- Accessing the Psychosomatic Network (psychological counseling, hypnotherapy, touch therapy, personal-growth seminars, meditation and prayer).
- Tapping into your dreams.
- Getting in touch with your body (she offers an appendix on alternative manipulative and energetic therapies).
- Reducing stress (meditation, relaxation music, play and self-honesty).
- Exercise.
- Eating wisely (including environment, consciousness, gratitude).
- Avoiding substance abuse.
And some Bruce Lipton [how your beliefs control your biology]:
“In quantum physics we also encounter a world of uncertainty. We have to let go of our Newtonian belief that we can determine everything, control everything and dominate nature, and come back to the natural theology approach that said to learn the patterns as best we can and live in harmony. By doing so we would be far better off today than in the world we have created, where our deterministic pursuit has changed the environment, changed ourselves and actually threatens our own demise. There is a comeuppance here and it comes down to understanding the nature of the field, meaning everything from the core of our being to the edge of the universe. We are part of this entire field.”
“Our thoughts are part of the energy field as is the energy from other living organisms and from non-living things. Everything is giving off energy. As we are doing neurological processing of the world that we live in, including our thoughts and beliefs, we are actually creating a magnetic vibration, like a tuning fork that emanates from our head out into the field. Scientists have found that if they take our magnetic field and direct it back into the head they can influence brain activity.”
[All coherencies / frequencies permitted, but some I prefer over others.]
Expressing love is the point. Love as catalyst:
“Once we fall in love, we tend to think it’s the other person, our lover, who makes us feel complete, filling in the missing part of our emotional neediness. Both sexes fall into that abyss and some never fully recover. Sadly, we tend to look for the person who makes us feel like a “real woman/man,” totally fulfilled and whole. It isn’t so, my friends.”
“What actually happens in love is that the ACT of loving puts us in touch with our ability to feel love, and that ability is the missing part we’ve craved. By inspiring us to express lovingness, our beloved connects us with that missing element of ourselves. It isn’t that she/he fills you up and makes you whole and you’re all jagged edges without her/him. The person you love is a catalyst, not a missing piece. The point is, no person outside yourself has the ability to make you whole. (That’s worth another reading, even if you’re in a hurry.)”